An issue I’ve been dealing with all semester is one of my closest family members dating someone that the majority of the family doesn’t like. It’s really hard to see someone you love and care for so much make decisions that hurt some of the parties involved. I’m not going to go into too much detail with this, as I have done with some of my stories, since this is a private issue and I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. But rather I am going to focus on what I’ve learned and how I’ve reacted.

I’ve learned that you can’t make people do something they don’t want to do. No matter how much you complain, argue and cry, the only person who can decide to change is oneself. I’ve learned that crazy things happen that may seem so bad and unnecessary at the time, but they all point to a specific purpose. Everything really does happen for a reason. It’s important to remember that even during unfavorable times, to focus on keeping yourself healthy and happy.

This negative issue combined with my positive thoughts, have brought new and good things to my life. I started working out to release emotions and in turn got more in shape. I started focusing on myself and what was best for me. I realized that everyone goes through hard times and regret is never fun. So, I’m trying to lead my life here on out with no regrets. Even in bad situations, I want to be able to look back and be proud of the decisions I made. I learned to make decisions based on what is best for ME in the LONG RUN.

You shouldn’t make decisions based on other people. You shouldn’t go to a college based on what friends you know will also be attending. Everyone will eventually go off on their own path. Things change, people change, but decisions are forever, so it’s important to choose wisely and keep your personal goals in mind.

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